Relationships
Different Ways to Handle Parenting Time During a Divorce
By Joshua Stern, Divorce and Family Law Attorney When I work with clients who have a child or children, nothing is more important than honoring the best interest of the child. One of the first questions divorcing parents typically ask me is how they will decide custody. What used to…
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How Does My Spouse Cheating On Me Affect My Divorce?
By Martin Sliwinski, Divorce and Family Law Attorney Despite the emotional turmoil and the profound betrayal associated with a spouse cheating on another spouse, Illinois law does not consider cheating as grounds for divorce. Infidelity cannot be used as a factor in the calculation of maintenance (formerly known as spousal…
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Everything You Wanted To Know About Discernment Counseling
Discernment counseling is a form of counseling that assists couples with determining whether they want to pursue a divorce or reconciliation. It’s particularly useful for aligning the couple’s understanding of where the relationship is at and where it’s headed. A while ago, I asked Theresa Herring, LMFT, to explain discernment…
Read MoreIt’s The Science Of Love
Scientific American just posted this article on how to have a longer marriage. Researcher John Gottman found that there are four characteristics of an unhappy marriage and that the presence of those four characteristics predicted divorce with 93% accuracy. “These four toxic behaviors are called contempt, criticism, stonewalling, and defensiveness.” Yikes! It…
Read MoreThe Science Behind Breaking Up
I’m not sure why I gave such an interesting post such a boring title, but that’s what this is about. Specifically, the University of California found that people experience a pain following a breakup that is remarkably similar to the pain they would feel if they experienced severe physical harm,…
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